Be a Captain

Today’s message very commonly goes as “be nice to each  other” & “ stay positive”. 

Let’s start with staying positive. Does that mean we all become optimists and see the silver lining in every situation? Does that mean we should all be happy all the time? That’s a large firm no. 

In my opinion it’s good to keep a healthy balance between optimism and realist. You must see the “silver lining” and recognize the “struggle” in order to proceed so you can get the results you desire by fixing the mistake the next time. 

Then let’s go to being nice to each other. Sometimes people say things that are not intended to be hurtful, or mean, but we as the individual take it so. We need to learn to see all angles before drawing a conclusion. I agree we shouldn’t say anything, if we have nothing nice to say. But I think as individuals we respond reactively rather than thoughtfully. 

NOW, that we got that out of the way, I can get into the next and full intention of this blog. I believe we need to become the “captain” of our happiness, life, and expectations. What does that mean? It means we need to take control and direct our life, mood, etc. 

We have all be around the “negative Nancy” or the chronic complainer. You know the individual, the one who complains about not enough money, not enough work, hates their job, not enough time at home, etc. A close relative  to the chronic complainer is the person who never has it good enough, the person who gets a new house, but the kitchen isn’t right, gets a new car but it’s not as good as the neighbors, and of course the dreaded “must be nice people. “Must be nice to have this or that”. 

I’ve learnt the subtle art of directing the situation. When someone starts off in a negative manner, I first relate to a similar situation and direct it back to a positive.  I’ve related and redirected negative talk into a positive tone. 

This negative energy could impact me but I have chosen to reflect it, by using relatable positive influence. 

Although this is not a perfected art, I simply try to do my best with it and strongly suggest you do the same. 

It becomes quite easy after some time to pick up on bitter jealous wording, and degrading others, and speak up and say “I do not agree with that, in my experience (say the polar opposite)”. No one is perfect but positive grows more positive. 

This actually will slowly stem down to your performance in the arena. Whether you are first or last, you will be able to take the positive from it, and move forward with excitement!